Is sharing passwords a matter of trust or an invasion of privacy? Trust is perhaps the strongest bond a couple can have, yet it is amazingly fragile. As intimacy increases, so can the polarity of ‘Come closer but give me some space’ that we can experience. That bond of intimacy can also become a leash […]
Yes…but you must learn to trust your instincts. Value yourself when you sense you’re with a player. Exercise discipline because they can be charming, charismatic and hot as hell. Decide what you want and need. I played with a few of them when I first began to date, a year after I left a 47 […]
I wonder if I’ll recognize love if it happens, or if I’ll not trust it and run for my life. I enjoy men and love sex, but just like in Las Vegas, I’m compelled to cap my losses. Before I sit down at a table, I’ve set a limit on how much I’m willing to […]
I want to pitch the “Three Date and drop by for more than a drink rule”, but then I looked at this link and whoa….evidently there are consequences! Who made the rules for dating after divorce anyway? A deviant chemist…one that encourages sex on page one. I’m going to start calling my body a bitch. […]
I need to learn how to date after divorce so I’m reading the updated version of The Rules of Dating, and am pretty sure these time and trial-by-fire tactics are dead on. The warning is clear, emphatic and non-negotiable: all renegade rule breakers are doomed to be hookups or heartbroken. I may be headed for […]
A friend suggested I title a blog, “Five Ways to Say ‘No’, so I just did. Problem is, we don’t need five ways to say that two-letter, single-syllable word to make it stick. Just say it. “No.” You don’t verbalize the period after it either. The period is a given after any complete sentence. It’s […]
This all got very confusing. Just when I figured I’d figured it out, my body retaliated behind my good intentions. I was biologically driven to pitch out the three or five-date rule…but there are hurdles. When his touch heats me up, his kiss makes me want to melt into him and I’m ready to kick […]
Conversation at a lunch yesterday in a casual group of singles shocked the hell out of me. It also humbled my self-righteous, women-are-the-vulnerable-sex-attitude. And it set my analytical mind on fire. Curious yet? Well, the subject of erectile dysfunction, initiated by a man, and discussed in an open forum, did all that and more. We’re […]
I’m way past the training or trainable stage myself, but if you’re up to the challenge, go for it, by all means.
I’m dating. Not sleeping around, but dating. Making friends. I went on a day trip to Julian with Ray today. It was chilly, but fun. Bare-limbed-apple orchards hunkered in for winter, wide vistas, incredible warm apple pie ala mode. He and I visited in the car, didn’t slide on the snow-covered roads coming or going, but just as we were pulling up to my apartment, my iPhone 7 blurts, “Bill Jones”. The ID of an incoming call.