3 Questions for Survivors of Emotional Abusive Relationships

A young woman, two generations younger and half a world away suggested I write a Q & A Blog for survivors. She’s still picking eggshells and gravel out of her feet after a bad breakup with a narcissist, but she’s out. She’s right, it would be encouraging and informative to hear from other survivors. Am hoping […]

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My Phone is a Snitch

I’m dating. Not sleeping around, but dating. Making friends. I went on a day trip to Julian with Ray today. It was chilly, but fun. Bare-limbed-apple orchards hunkered in for winter, wide vistas, incredible warm apple pie ala mode. He and I visited in the car, didn’t slide on the snow-covered roads coming or going, but just as we were pulling up to my apartment, my iPhone 7 blurts, “Bill Jones”. The ID of an incoming call.

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Cough Up the Condoms Fellas

This entry is part 10 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

Condoms are a tough topic to bring up, let alone discuss when the intensity of a date leads to intimacy for the first time. According to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 90 percent of men over 50 didn’t use a condom when they last had sex with a date or casual acquaintance and 70 percent didn’t glove up for a stranger. Our youngsters are evidently more conscientious, with 70 to 80 percent of teens packing them in purses or back pockets to prevent pregnancy, as well as STDs. That’s quite a role reversal.

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From Toxic to Triumph

This entry is part 7 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

I didn’t write this blog to entertain, or make you laugh. If I’d understood the dynamics of my narcissist/codependent relationship I wouldn’t have wasted so much of my life trying to make it work. I’m not telling you to stay in your relationship or leave. I want to give you tools to evaluate where you […]

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