Make Happy and Glad, Out of Lonely and Sad

I’m not sad or lonely. I’ve been marathoning episodes of Grey’s Anatomy. Living vicariously through their life and death dramas, loves, passions, the insanity of being real people in intense circumstances. I write to you about my past, want to pay it forward…after I discovered what happened to me, my marriage of over forty years. […]

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Worst Things About Life With a Narcissist?

We adapt: to the narcissist’s tempers, impatience, even to their contempt, yet for me, the worst thing about living with a narcissist is the emotional void of loving someone not only incapable of loving me back, but capable of such devaluing cruelty…sometimes covertly, other times with the fury of intimidation. Loving them is the worst […]

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Can Empathetic People Learn to Spot Manipulators?

Yes…but you must learn to trust your instincts. Value yourself when you sense you’re with a player. Exercise discipline because they can be charming, charismatic and hot as hell. Decide what you want and need. I played with a few of them when I first began to date, a year after I left a 47 […]

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Dating After Divorce ~ The Seduction Conundrum…

This entry is part 1 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

I need to learn how to date after divorce so I’m reading the updated version of The Rules of Dating, and am pretty sure these time and trial-by-fire tactics are dead on. The warning is clear, emphatic and non-negotiable: all renegade rule breakers are doomed to be hookups or heartbroken. I may be headed for […]

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When is it time to declare that you ARE dating others or WANT TO BE EXCLUSIVE?

This entry is part 6 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

Honesty in a relationship – any relationship – is one of the cornerstones of making it work. Whether that relationship is in the workplace, within a family, a friendship, or with someone you are dating, honesty is key.  But being upfront about our needs, where we feel a relationship is at, when it is time […]

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Tips to know when it is NOT time to declare your intentions… whether you want to be exclusive or not.

This entry is part 5 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

While honesty is almost always the best policy, there is a difference between honesty and what is simply too much information.  Thus, while our most natural tendency – especially when we are in that geared-up zone of first and early-on dates – might be to tell all. Let’s talk a bit about what we should […]

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