When is it Time For You to break up or lead someone on? When they are “all in” and you’re not. Maybe you care for them, but are no longer ‘in love’ and want more or want something or someone else. Are you being mean or honest if you don’t break up? In truth, they […]
Three of my teenage grandsons came to see me over Fall Break. We were at a stop sign in downtown San Diego when a couple crossed in front of us. Once headed down the street the man made an intentional move to walk along the street side and keep his wife tucked safely on the […]
I want to pitch the “Three Date and drop by for more than a drink rule”, but then I looked at this link and whoa….evidently there are consequences! Who made the rules for dating after divorce anyway? A deviant chemist…one that encourages sex on page one. I’m going to start calling my body a bitch. […]
I need to learn how to date after divorce so I’m reading the updated version of The Rules of Dating, and am pretty sure these time and trial-by-fire tactics are dead on. The warning is clear, emphatic and non-negotiable: all renegade rule breakers are doomed to be hookups or heartbroken. I may be headed for […]
A friend suggested I title a blog, “Five Ways to Say ‘No’, so I just did. Problem is, we don’t need five ways to say that two-letter, single-syllable word to make it stick. Just say it. “No.” You don’t verbalize the period after it either. The period is a given after any complete sentence. It’s […]
This all got very confusing. Just when I figured I’d figured it out, my body retaliated behind my good intentions. I was biologically driven to pitch out the three or five-date rule…but there are hurdles. When his touch heats me up, his kiss makes me want to melt into him and I’m ready to kick […]
I learned a new word today; pompoir. Also known as ‘playing the flute’. I’m going to let you use your imagination here, because it is a sexual techinque with some pretty fascinating payoffs. Makes you wonder if Dr. Kegel traveled to Singapore and was inspired by another name for this dandy manuver, the Singapore Grip. […]
Conversation at a lunch yesterday in a casual group of singles shocked the hell out of me. It also humbled my self-righteous, women-are-the-vulnerable-sex-attitude. And it set my analytical mind on fire. Curious yet? Well, the subject of erectile dysfunction, initiated by a man, and discussed in an open forum, did all that and more. We’re […]
What happened to me last night didn’t last days or weeks, but less than an hour. I’m writing about it so you won’t get rattled when these moments mug you, even long after you’ve escaped the POW camp of heartbreak or betrayal or tempers or whatever relationship chaos you endured. Narcissism anyone? Just a flash […]
Hi…Wanted to share a paragraph from my book, LEAVING YOU…for me, about Benefit Buddies.😀 FWB is a relationship stage, not destination. Friends with benefits engage in intimate acts, enjoy physical contact, touch, taste, and pleasure. But it isn’t all free fun. Both must balance on the same tight rope, over the same rocky ravine. One […]