When is it Time For You to break up or lead someone on? When they are “all in” and you’re not. Maybe you care for them, but are no longer ‘in love’ and want more or want something or someone else. Are you being mean or honest if you don’t break up? In truth, they […]
IS SHARING PASSWORDS A RELATIONSHIP MINEFIELD?
Is sharing passwords a matter of trust or an invasion of privacy? Trust is perhaps the strongest bond a couple can have, yet it is amazingly fragile. As intimacy increases, so can the polarity of ‘Come closer but give me some space’ that we can experience. That bond of intimacy can also become a leash […]
Dating After Divorce and the Three Date Rule
I want to pitch the “Three Date and drop by for more than a drink rule”, but then I looked at this link and whoa….evidently there are consequences! Who made the rules for dating after divorce anyway? A deviant chemist…one that encourages sex on page one. I’m going to start calling my body a bitch. […]
Friends With Benefits
Hi…Wanted to share a paragraph from my book, LEAVING YOU…for me, about Benefit Buddies.😀 FWB is a relationship stage, not destination. Friends with benefits engage in intimate acts, enjoy physical contact, touch, taste, and pleasure. But it isn’t all free fun. Both must balance on the same tight rope, over the same rocky ravine. One […]
When is it time to declare that you ARE dating others or WANT TO BE EXCLUSIVE?
Honesty in a relationship – any relationship – is one of the cornerstones of making it work. Whether that relationship is in the workplace, within a family, a friendship, or with someone you are dating, honesty is key. But being upfront about our needs, where we feel a relationship is at, when it is time […]
Tips to know when it is NOT time to declare your intentions… whether you want to be exclusive or not.
While honesty is almost always the best policy, there is a difference between honesty and what is simply too much information. Thus, while our most natural tendency – especially when we are in that geared-up zone of first and early-on dates – might be to tell all. Let’s talk a bit about what we should […]
The “Talk”
Traditionally guys hate it when women say, “We need to talk.” Now that I’m single, dating, making friends, not inviting them up to my apartment but saying goodbye at the front door, they want to talk. I ditched the 3-date rule but find myself tripping over it because after five dates the date that brought […]