I’m not sad or lonely. I’ve been marathoning episodes of Grey’s Anatomy. Living vicariously through their life and death dramas, loves, passions, the insanity of being real people in intense circumstances. I write to you about my past, want to pay it forward…after I discovered what happened to me, my marriage of over forty years. […]
When is it Time For You to break up or lead someone on? When they are “all in” and you’re not. Maybe you care for them, but are no longer ‘in love’ and want more or want something or someone else. Are you being mean or honest if you don’t break up? In truth, they […]
This morning a woman on Facebook stirred memories of those first months after I left my husband of 47 years. When we finally leave a narcissistic relationship, we can be pretty broken and emotionally battered. Not at the top of our game for sure. Leaving isn’t the fulfillment of our dream, it’s a last resort […]
Break the seal of the past. Grab the quill. Redirect your path. Rewrite the next scene of your story. You’re the Director, Producer and Star of the show. This is your life to own. Alex Delon
I signed up for a four-hour, half-price whale watching excursion this morning with a Meetup group. I want to make fun of myself for getting ready, even though the fog or marine layer, whatever it is, has squatted like a too-fat-to-move toad, but I can’t find light or funny at the moment. A dear friend, […]
Yes…but you must learn to trust your instincts. Value yourself when you sense you’re with a player. Exercise discipline because they can be charming, charismatic and hot as hell. Decide what you want and need. I played with a few of them when I first began to date, a year after I left a 47 […]
I want to pitch the “Three Date and drop by for more than a drink rule”, but then I looked at this link and whoa….evidently there are consequences! Who made the rules for dating after divorce anyway? A deviant chemist…one that encourages sex on page one. I’m going to start calling my body a bitch. […]
A young woman, two generations younger and half a world away suggested I write a Q & A Blog for survivors. She’s still picking eggshells and gravel out of her feet after a bad breakup with a narcissist, but she’s out. She’s right, it would be encouraging and informative to hear from other survivors. Am hoping […]
This all got very confusing. Just when I figured I’d figured it out, my body retaliated behind my good intentions. I was biologically driven to pitch out the three or five-date rule…but there are hurdles. When his touch heats me up, his kiss makes me want to melt into him and I’m ready to kick […]
I learned a new word today; pompoir. Also known as ‘playing the flute’. I’m going to let you use your imagination here, because it is a sexual techinque with some pretty fascinating payoffs. Makes you wonder if Dr. Kegel traveled to Singapore and was inspired by another name for this dandy manuver, the Singapore Grip. […]