Yes…but you must learn to trust your instincts. Value yourself when you sense you’re with a player. Exercise discipline because they can be charming, charismatic and hot as hell. Decide what you want and need. I played with a few of them when I first began to date, a year after I left a 47 yr marriage.
They were what I knew, was attracted to. I was still in pieces, needed validation I was desired, but recognized them instantly. Argued with my arousal and attraction. It was fierce, but my instincts won…so I didn’t get hurt. I understand the thrill of infatuation. Have some great memories but didn’t let myself drag my emotions into the relationships. Fun, freedom, some great times, some caution signs, but trusted my instincts when they told me it was time to move on.
I’m not proud or ashamed of those adventures, recognize them as part of my journey, but as I’ve put my pieces back together, there isn’t room for anyone less than genuine anymore. Once I made that shift, I see those men I’d overlooked when I allowed the narcissists to dominate…as they do. LOL
Best wishes and believe in yourself enough to smile just a bit when you recognize the users and players and narcissists.