Cough Up the Condoms Fellas

This entry is part 11 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

Condoms are a tough topic to bring up, let alone discuss when the intensity of a date leads to intimacy for the first time. According to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 90 percent of men over 50 didn’t use a condom when they last had sex with a date or casual acquaintance and 70 percent didn’t glove up for a stranger. Our youngsters are evidently more conscientious, with 70 to 80 percent of teens packing them in purses or back pockets to prevent pregnancy, as well as STDs. That’s quite a role reversal.

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You ARE Worth Fighting For

This entry is part 9 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

This has been a strange morning. I stumbled on an email I’d written myself six months before I left my marriage. It was my way of journaling. It showed up in an ‘Unsent’ folder on my iPad email. I knew there was a folder for Drafts I’d not sent yet, but my old iPad didn’t […]

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From Toxic to Triumph

This entry is part 8 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

I didn’t write this blog to entertain, or make you laugh. If I’d understood the dynamics of my narcissist/codependent relationship I wouldn’t have wasted so much of my life trying to make it work. I’m not telling you to stay in your relationship or leave. I want to give you tools to evaluate where you […]

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When is it time to declare that you ARE dating others or WANT TO BE EXCLUSIVE?

This entry is part 7 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

Honesty in a relationship – any relationship – is one of the cornerstones of making it work. Whether that relationship is in the workplace, within a family, a friendship, or with someone you are dating, honesty is key.  But being upfront about our needs, where we feel a relationship is at, when it is time […]

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Tips to know when it is NOT time to declare your intentions… whether you want to be exclusive or not.

This entry is part 6 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

While honesty is almost always the best policy, there is a difference between honesty and what is simply too much information.  Thus, while our most natural tendency – especially when we are in that geared-up zone of first and early-on dates – might be to tell all. Let’s talk a bit about what we should […]

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The “Talk”

This entry is part 5 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

Traditionally guys hate it when women say, “We need to talk.” Now that I’m single, dating, making friends, not inviting them up to my apartment but saying goodbye at the front door, they want to talk. I ditched the 3-date rule but find myself tripping over it because after five dates the date that brought […]

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Let’s Stop It! Just Stop! Get Real!

This entry is part 4 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

I’ve read Not Your Mother’s RULES, the sequel to All the Rules, that won the author’s spots on Oprah and the Today Show, a $400 per hour consulting business and raised the hackles of feminists everywhere. The “Rules” of dating authors preached how to be not only feminine, but how to be bait and hook […]

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Let’s Remake the Rules

This entry is part 3 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

Looking for instructions on how to date in this 21st Century world of on-line singles sites, social media, and the three-date rule, I booted up my computer to search Google for answers. Someone had to have directions. When I downloaded a book called Not Your Mother’s Rules, the sequel to All the Rules, I was […]

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Stage One

This entry is part 1 of 10 in the series My Adventures So Far

Before I got married I wasn’t single. I was a teenager; a high school senior. with no car, a curfew, and a bedroom across the hall from my parents. Now I’m in my sixties. Officially unmarried, finally, but I still can’t check the box for ‘Single’ at my new doctor’s office or on my no-longer […]

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Ignite Your Fire

Fire at once defies and dispels darkness. It defines, destroys and regenerates. I tampered with it. Tried to suppress and tame it, the fire within me, my essence, until to survive, I had to light it up and let it burn. Forests were once refreshed by fire. The touch of flames germinated pine cone seeds, […]

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